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Mary's Messages

Escaping the Stress Trap

You can't eliminate stress, but you can learn to control stress before it controls you. Mary Southerland transforms the promises of the Twenty-third Psalm into easy-to-implement, practical steps that will hand you the keys to stress management. Imagine facing each day knowing how to:

  • Take charge of anxiety-filled moments in order to manage and control your stress level.
  • Maximize your physical energy and decrease stress levels by eating the right foods.
  • Choose the correct attitude toward your job in order to be successful in your work.
  • Respond correctly to anger, fear, and depression with healthy emotions that manage stress.

Coming Out of the Dark

Mary Southerland seemed to have it all until clinical depression brought her world crashing down. She found herself paralyzed and unable to function at home or in ministry. Experience Mary’s story of deliverance through this practical message designed to help every man, woman, or child who battles depression learn to:

  • Change a negative thought life into positive, healthy thought patterns.
  • Control and use the power of emotions to avoid erratic mood swings.
  • Establish friendships that replenish and manage draining ones.
  • Re-set priorities to have a more balanced life.

Sandpaper People

The unwanted intrusion of a nosy neighbor…the exasperating antics of the teenager who constantly pushes your buttons…the infuriating behavior of a co-worker…Mary Southerland has encountered her share of abrasive people. Learning how to deal with those people God’s way has changed Mary’s life. Imagine if you could:

  • Learn how to confront in a constructive way to make your relationships more meaningful.
  • Discipline your responses to difficult people to eliminate their control in your life.
  • Address the sandpaper tendencies in your own life to become more compassionate.
Chapter-by-chapter questions, applications and journaling suggestions will guide you to the place where you can see your sandpaper people for what they are: opportunities from God to grow…while being transformed in the process.

Getting Good at Being You

It's been said, "No one can make you feel inferior without your permission!" Then, why do we struggle to understand who we are, why we were created, and our purpose in life? Insecurity and fear paralyzed Mary Southerland until she discovered how to realize her God-given potential. This insightful message will help you:
  • Experience victory over painful circumstances by cultivating the right attitude and responses to pain.
  • Learn to establish goals that will empower you to live a life of influence.
  • Use past failures to insure future success.

Laugh More…Live Better

Mary Southerland swam against an undercurrent of unhappiness until she discovered that she was created for joy! “Laugh More…Live Better” is a refreshing message filled with humor and godly principles that will empower you to:
  • Minimize “joy-stealers” in your life, such as stress, unrealistic expectations and harmful relationships.
  • Relish the benefits of joy, such as healing, strength, relaxation, and encouragement.
  • Adjust your focus to appreciate the small wonders that each day holds.

How to Avoid the Pits of Life

Mary Southerland knows from experience that life is filled with many kinds of pits; the loss of parents, sexual abuse, clinical depression, health challenges – but has emerged from each pit with a deeper joy and greater strength. In this message, Mary will help you learn how to:
  • Direct and train your thoughts in order to prevent chaos and defeat and encourage peace and victory in your daily life
  • Use your words as tools instead of weapons in order to build healthy relationships
  • Deal with sin in order to avoid the painful life consequences of disobedience to God
  • Identify and eliminate wrong habits that result in stress
  • Learn how to find joy in the midst of sorrow

Strength for the Storm

Storms are a reality of life. How can we face and weather each storm without drowning? Mary Southerland is no stranger to storms and has learned how through them with joy. Mary shares fresh strategies for handling difficult times to help you:
  • Control your fear of the unknown in order to enjoy life today.
  • Choose a perspective of joy that will enable you to face each storm with strength and victory.
  • Identify the purpose of storms so you can process that purpose, producing lasting, powerful changes in your life.

Love that Never Fails

True love doesn’t collapse under pressure or fall apart in the hard times. How can we experience and practice that kind of love? Mary shares her story and explains how to define, discover, and experience unconditional love. Her message will help you choose:
  • Commitment, instead of comfort, to experience enduring relationships.
  • Forgiveness over revenge to control anger.
  • Sacrifice, instead of self-indulgence, to become more giving.
  • Confrontation, rather than retreat, to deal with and successfully resolve conflict.

The Power of Forgiveness

When we are wounded or betrayed, our first reaction may be to “get even”. In “The Power of Forgiveness”, Mary Southerland offers five steps we can take in order to shut down destructive emotions and encourage godly responses to those who hurt us.
  • Discover the true meaning of forgiveness in order to repair old relationships and build healthy new ones
  • Learn how to take the initiative in the forgiveness process in order to guard against bitterness and anger
  • Understand that forgiveness is not a feeling, but a deliberate choice that fuels solid relationships
  • Give yourself permission to let go of hurt so you can be set free to move on
  • Commit to making forgiveness an emotional habit, a mental gear and a spiritual discipline

Come As You Are

The most common invitation offered by Jesus Christ is simply to "come." He doesn't ask us to fix what is wrong or expect us to clean up our lives. That is His responsibility. Jesus loves us just as we are - in the midst of our sin and frail humanity. When we come to Him with a "yes" in our hearts, He lovingly transforms the broken places into beautiful scars of healing and new life. "Come As You Are" is an encouraging message filled with hope and God's love and power to help us be all He created us to be. Just imagine your life if you could:

  • Learn to seek God and walk by faith
  • Experience what it means to truly abandon yourself to Him
  • Choose to embrace your pain and allow God to use it for your good
Divine Surprises: 7 Habits of a Highly Successful Woman

What did God create you to do? Are you doing it? "Divine Surprises: 7 Habits of a Successful Woman" offers seven practical steps that will help you discover your true purpose in life. We were created to love and serve God with passion and with joy. Just imagine your life if you could:

  • Understand how valuable you are to God
  • Experience the power that comes from rest and solitude
  • Practice gratitude and learn how to be content
  • Eliminate destructive habits that keep you from being who God created you to be
  • Cultivate powerful habits that will help you find and do God's will

4 Steps to an Unshakable Faith

Mary Southerland knows from experience that life is filled with many kinds of pits; the loss of parents, sexual abuse, clinical depression, health challenges, but has emerged from each pit with an unshakable faith. In this message, Mary will help you learn how to:
  • Direct and train your thoughts in order to prevent chaos and defeat and encourage peace and victory in your daily life
  • Use your words as tools instead of weapons in order to build healthy relationships
  • Deal with sin in order to avoid the painful life consequences of disobedience to God
  • Identify and eliminate wrong habits that result in stress
  • Learn how to find joy in the midst of sorrow

Ho! Ho! Ho! Help!

Do you dread the Christmas holidays? After a particular miserable holiday season, Mary Southerland went on a diligent search to experience a joy-filled Christmas. The truth she discovered will help you enjoy wonderful holiday season as you:
  • Learn how to prevent and control stress during the holidays.
  • Give God the gifts He wants to receive from you.
  • Discover and give ten wonderful gifts without spending a penny!