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7 Habits of a Highly Successful Woman in Ministry

Focus verse: Psalm 139:14-15 “I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Your works are wonderful; I know that full well. When I was woven together in the depths of the earth, your eyes saw my unformed body.” In order to allow the power of God to freely reign in our lives and flow through us, spilling out in ministry, we must cultivate spiritual habits. Habits are powerful motivators and determine the difference between failure and success in ministry as well as personally. Together, we will look at seven habits that will enable us to experience true success – God’s idea of success - in daily life and in ministry. First, we will explore the foundational truth of who we are and whose we really are.

Habit one: Perceive your identity

Psalm 139:14-15 “I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Your works are wonderful; I know that full well. When I was woven together in the depths of the earth, your eyes saw my unformed body.”

In order to be who God wants us to be and serve in the way He created us to serve we must first discover just how important we really are to Him. Learning to see ourselves as God sees us – no more and no less – will set us free to serve with joy and passion. When we begin to understand who we are in Christ His transforming power is then unleashed in us to work through us.

1. God made me - I am valuable.

I love a good sale, don’t you? When I find a “75% off” tag, I consider it to be a sign from the Lord! (At this writing, my husband has not yet discovered this truth.) In my quest to be a good shopper, I have learned an important lesson. I will save money in the long run if I first check the label for a good name brand. I recently applied this principle when shopping for a new sofa. With the proceeds from our week-end garage sale in hand, I headed for the nearest outlet store, keeping in mind that I had a certain amount of money to spend and a unique color to match. Slipping quietly into the store, I browsed and compared, dismissing overly aggressive salesmen with a tight smile and the clipped comment, ‘I am just looking.” I finally narrowed the choice down to two sofas, both of which would work in my price range and color scheme. As I stood, contemplating my decision, a salesman quickly approached, smelling a sale in the air. Before he had time to think or speak, I whirled around to face him. “If your wife was buying one of these two sofas, which one would you tell her to buy?” I asked. Without the slightest hesitation, he pointed to one of the sofas and said, “This one.” I was impressed by his certainty and asked how he could so quickly make the choice. His answer was simple but profound. “This one is a better name brand, built by a company that has been in existence for years and has a reputation for building quality furniture. The other one is a cheap imitation.”

And so it is with us. You can judge a product’s potential – you can judge a product’s value by looking at the One who created it. In other words, you are valuable – simply because you are created by the hand of God.

Ephesians 2:10 “For we are God's masterpiece. He has created us anew in Christ Jesus, so that we can do the good things he planned for us long ago.”

As a little girl, I loved to watch Billy Graham crusades on television mainly for one reason. I wanted to hear Ethyl Waters sing “His Eye is On the Sparrow”. During one particular crusade, Miss Waters shared her life story before she sang. I was amazed to learn that she had been conceived in a rape. Long after Miss Waters sang her last note, I thought about the riveting testimony of this precious woman. My heart filled with awe, thanking God that through what we would probably call “an accident” or “tragedy”, He created beauty and purpose. Ethyl Waters is a powerful and living illustration of God’s stubborn love and the amazing truth that whatever touches us has to pass through His hands, with His permission. Why? Because we belong to Him! The Father made us - we are His, and as my seventeen year old daughter would say, “Girl, you are something else!” I couldn’t’ have said it better.

A personal word from Mary: Many times over the years, I have served God with the wrong heart motive. I have used the opportunity and privilege of ministry as a platform from which I fed my own sense of worth and serviced my narcissistic human goals. I served to be valuable instead of serving because I am valuable. Certainly my worth and value rest completely in Him and it is only because of the deposits He makes in my life that I am able to withdraw strength and power to live and minister. On my own, I have nothing and am nothing. Through a personal relationship with Jesus Christ, I have everything and am valuable. Live today in the power of the truth that in God’s eyes - you are something else!

 
Women's Ministry Leaders:

Mary Southerland serves the local church as the Women’s Ministry Motivator, who supports leaders and inspires women to participate in Bible Studies, Life Groups, and volunteer ministries.

Ministry leaders identify with Mary, because she has over 15 years experience working “in the trenches” as a pastor’s wife and former women’s ministry director. She led Women in Focus at Flamingo Road Church in Ft. Lauderdale, FL, which grew in attendance from 40 to over 400 women. Her expertise helps leaders across America embrace challenges and learn how to:
  • Start a new women’s ministry from scratch.
  • Manage transition and growth to establish a ministry that changes lives.
  • Balance the priorities between ministry and family.
  • Develop leadership qualities, such as personal integrity, the ability to motivate, and the willingness to delegate.
  • Handle difficult people with compassion.
  • Encourage women to connect, sign-up, and serve in helping others.
Mary’s resources for leaders include her books, Experiencing God’s Power in Your Ministry, Escaping the Stress Trap, Hope in the midst of Depression and Sandpaper People.
 

 

Leadership Events:

Mary is available to meet with your women’s leadership team for brain-storming and planning sessions. She assists leaders through retreats, one-day, and half-day conferences.


Conference topics include:

  • Dreaming a New Dream for Your Women’s Ministry
  • The 7 Habits of Highly Successful Woman in Ministry
  • Surviving Transition in Your Church
  • Experiencing God’s Power in Your Ministry
  • Getting Good at Being You
  • Sandpaper People: Dealing with Abrasive Personalities

To Mary, there is no greater reward than to lead women to Jesus Christ and His plan for their life. So, when your ministry needs a fresh start, contact the Women’s Ministry Motivator.


 
Mary Southerland spoke at our Women’s Ministry Event where she challenged, encouraged, and refreshed each woman present. Best of all, she inspired over 150 women to sign up for Bible Studies and volunteer ministries for the first time! Mary really motivated our women to get connected!

Allison Hall – Women’s Ministry Director
Westside Family Church, Shawnee, KS

I really enjoyed the opportunity to spend time with Mary today. I found it to be a great bonding experience for me as a member of the support staff. I believe her ideas and suggestions will inspire all of us to be clothed in humility and be servants with the W.I.T. attitude.
 
Barbara Osborne
Children's Ministries
Eastminster Presbyterian Church
Wichita, KS

Mary’s time with the women of our church was impactful. The information, joys and heartaches she shared not only touched but influenced the lives of the women attending. Women continue to talk about the relationships made and deepened during some of the activities Mary challenged us to complete. Beyond the “nuts and bolts”, Mary has a heart for women and their walk with the Lord. Her words and prayers continue to serve as an encouragement.
 
Gail Derreberry
Director Women’s Ministries & Strategic Initiatives
Eastminster Presbyterian Church
Wichita, KS


 
A word from Mary:

We are on the same team, the same journey and fighting the same fight! I know from experience that, as ministry leaders, our needs are unique as we live under unseen pressures and unspoken demands that can only be understood by others in ministry.

The demands on time and energy are sometimes overwhelming. The constant struggle to balance ministry and family priorities is just that...constant! Living in the proverbial but very real fishbowl can get really old...really fast!

And yet, the joys and rewards of following God's call is worth it all! To see a woman connect with other women who choose to encourage and walk with her is awesome! To be part of God's transforming power in a family is priceless. To lead women to Christ and His plan for their life...well, there are no words to describe it!

Still, there are times when I want to run and hide...or just quit! That is when I need a friend, someone who is available, someone who understands, someone I can trust. God is always ready to do just that, but my heart cries out for a person who will be "God with skin on" in my life. I want to be that person in your life!



 
 
 


Book Excerpt

Let Mary help you build a dynamic Leadership Team for your Women's Ministry!

As a Bible-study leader, women’s ministry director, pastor’s wife and mother of two, Mary Southerland’s extensive experience will help you:

  • Learn how to embrace necessary transition to establish a ministry that changes lives.
  • Develop essential leadership characteristics, such as personal integrity, the ability to motivate others, and the willingness to delegate.
Each chapter includes a study section and an in-the-trenches life story from a woman in ministry.

All this adds up to a powerful resource that will encourage you to keep running the race and to celebrate what God is doing through you in ministry.
 

From Tiffany Watson
Georgetown, SC


"My husband and I have only been in ministry for five months and God is doing some awesome things in our church and in our lives. I just happened to pick up your book, "Experiencing God's Power in Your Ministry", and thought it might be helpful to me. Well, all I can say is, "Keep on keeping on, sister!" You have already made an impact in my life!"


From Loraine Meltz, Women’s Ministry Director, Bakersfield, CA

Mary’s teachings are a tool I have used to help equip the women of our ministry grow in Christ and experience a life focused on spiritual maturity.